Saturday 8 April 2023

Arranged marriages. What is your opinion?

 Do you think that arranged marriages always build unhappy couples? Do you think they lead to a wrong vision of love?

35 comments:

  1. I don't think arranged marriages always lead to unhappy couples. It is possible that in some cases it gives birth to a happy couple and therefore leads to a beautiful vision of love. However, arranged marriages are very different from forced marriages because unlike forced marriages, in arranged marriages people have the right to say no. So arranged marriages can form happy couples and lead to a beautiful vision of love because both people in the couple want it.

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  2. I think they'd work pretty well if they were what people claim they are.
    sometimes Your family knows better than you! They will choose someone who looks like you, so you will be compatible. Then the love will grow over time as you get to know each other and build a life together.

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  3. I think arranged mariages have a lot of disadvantages which can build unhappy couples. Indeed, in my opinion, arranged mariages look more like a contract, an act signed between two people whereas real marriage is above all a union of love. Therefore, the couple could feel obliged to get married. Moreover, the family is extremely involved in arranged marriages thus the family pressure can cause unhappiness in these cases and lead more easily to divorce. Then, it becomes the choice of the family who decides for the future of their children, of the parents for example who do it for a particular interest such as money or social image. However, marriage is a personal life choice because you can't force two people who don't know each other for love to get married so I think they may lead to a wrong vision of love.

    Lucie VITRÉ 101

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  4. I think arranged marriages do not necessarily lead to unhappy couples or a bad vision of love. Their impact depends on many factors, such as culture, family and the individuals involved. In some cases, arranged marriages can lead to incompatibilities and relationship difficulties, while in other cases, they can be successful and happy.

    Sujaani 104

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  5. First of all, arranged marriages have been going on for a very long time.
    Of course, it gives an unreal image of love for other people because they get married for a reason which is not love. Therefore, an arranged marriage can build a happy couple.

    On the one hand, arranged marriages can give a wrong vision of love. Our marriage, so the day we are supposed to prove our love between each other, becomes the day we act and pretend to love each other. People do that because of money, their social image or something else. However, in the case that it lead to an unhappy couple, they succeed to delete or just forget one of the most profond and real feeling on earth: love. Indeed, we can take the exemple of Prince Charles and Princess Diana. They were married by arrangement because Prince Charles needed a wife and according to him Diana was the perfect wife. Unfortunately, thy did not ended up happy and then he cheated on her with the woman that he wanted to marry before her.

    On the other hand, arranged marriage can lead to happy couples. In this case, it shows even more real love. Indeed, love is there where it should not be in the first place. If people get married for a reason opposite to love and finally love them though, it highlights the strong love between them. We can take the old case of Leopold I and Louise Marie d'Orléans. They get married in 1832 and became powerful in addition of the reign of love between them. They allowed to etablish alliances, found dynasties and ensure a stability to the nation by being happy and by sharing the same passions.

    Finally, I am for arranged marriages when it is not forced marriages. If we have the choice to sign this paper and to chose our partner, we have to be careful and chose very well to create an empire, become powerful or other and at the same time love each other. A really good idea but very risky.

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  6. Arranged marriages can seem interesting because your family does the “work” of finding a partner for you and you can decide whether you want to marry this person or not.

    But in most cases the persons can’t really refuse the marriage because if they do their relationship with their family will become way worse and people won’t understand since everyone around you had an arranged marriage. That’s why even if they doubt the marriage will go just fine they just end up accepting it.

    Of course sometimes the couple fell in love with each other but it’s just luck, it doesn’t happen each time and the two could just have fallen in love before ending up marrying. Or they could have a wrong way of seeing love and think that their relationship is love when it’s clearly not and it will make it difficult to get a divorce.

    For forced marriages, it's even worse than arranged marriages because we don’t even ask the approval of the couple and that’s why I think it’s clearly criminal.

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    1. Of course sometimes the couple fall in love*

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  7. I don’t think arranged marriages always lead to a wrong vision of love. On the one hand arranged mariage can be a good thing because your family is going to pick somebody that they think is good for you but on the other hand sometimes the family doesn’t think about the happiness of their children but they only think about the money so it leads to a forced marriage because it wasn’t made for love and happiness but money. The decision to enter into an arranged marriage should be voluntary and made based on the authentic wishes of the individuals involved. Marriage is about love and happiness not about money so people should have the right to choose who they want to love and not be forced into loving them.
    Zoe Hughes

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  8. In my opinion, I have mixed feelings because I think there are a lot of disadvantages. For exemple: the married may not be happy because they haven’t chosen the person they love.But in the contrary, it is possible that the meeting is a revelation for lovers. Moreover I think arranged marriages decreases because it is an ancient practice especially in royal families like Léopold 1 and Louise-Marie d’Orleans in Belgium or even Henry 8 who forced six wife’s to marry


    Viallaron Edgar

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      *on the contrary

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  9. Victor KEUCKERMonday, 08 May, 2023

    First of all, this practice is older, dating back to before the Middle Ages.

    On the one hand, it is not good, because if you do not love the person, you may be unhappy all your life. Moreover, arranged marriages go against the principle of freedom, because if you love another person, you can't do what you want.

    On the other hand, it is interesting that one of the spouses is rich, so that the other can benefit. This makes too many people suffer in Africa, I think it should be abolished for that, indeed In Africa, in Niger, a child is married by force every 2 seconds.

    Finally, arranged marriage, in my opinion, is a bad idea, and it should be abolished.

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  10. I do not think that arranged marriages are necessarily doomed to failure and an unhappy marriage, but it is true that in many situations, these marriages are catastrophic. Indeed, marriage is a choice of love, made to unite two people who love each other and promise fidelity all their lives, but this vision is biased when the bride and groom are forced to do so for cultural or religious reasons. In these cases we are not talking about marriage for love but marriage of arrangement. These situations can lead to domestic violence or deception within the unhappy couple. however it happens that people who have had an arranged marriage come to fall in love by discovering each other.

    Tatiana

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  11. Yes, I think arranged marriages depend on how the two people behave towards each other. If he respects and accepts himself, it is possible. They must learn to know each other in order to live together.

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  12. I think is another culture and we can't know what it really is. In a lot of country, legislation cause a lot of problemes at the level of mariage. generaly it s do for a money, territory, etc... and they don't a choise often. The probleme is when 2 the persones don't love each other but Often they must do this for their family even if complicated.

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  13. I think arranged mariages are bad thing are love killer

    i think for this has become rare in modern countries but not in eastern countries.

    but I don’t think they necessarily create a unhappy couple but the majority of casses YES!


    finally I think yes they lead to a wrong view of love

    Lyes Dennai

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  14. To my mind, it is not imaginable to arrange marriage because I think that when you marry your wife or your husband, it is for life. So if you face this kind of arrangement I find it so horrible and destructive for you. I find it absurd because you don't have the choice for your love life and what's more important, is that you don't have the freedom.
    On the one hand, arranged marriage can build unhappy couples because you don’t want to marry your partner that you are not in love with. However, I also agree that you can fall in love after a few years but I believe that is so rare unfortunately! Generally in Europe, first, people fall in love, then marry each other. In some other countries we consider that we will fall in love after we spend time with the person. Personally I hope that does not happen for me in the future.
    On the other hand, I also think that this arrangement can lead to a bad vision of love because in your head you know if you should do it or not do it, so you have a kind of "pressure". I think arranged marriages are rather stressful for people because you have the need to not disappoint your loved ones and your friends.

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    1. Here is some corrections:
      I find it absurd because you don't have any choice where your love life is concerned and what's more important, is that you are not free […] However, I also agree that you can fall in love with the person after a few years but I believe that is so rare unfortunately!

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  15. For me, arranged marriages are something illegal and should be punished by the low. People should have choice with who they married because in general you stay with her for life. Even if you like finally the person you can also hate her. I would never understand something like that.
    Alécia Agamirzoev

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  16. Arranged marriages can have different outcomes depending on various factors, such as cultural context and individual experiences. While some arranged marriages may lead to unhappy couples or a different understanding of love, it's important to remember that every situation is unique. Love can develop and grow in different ways, whether it's through arranged marriages or other forms of relationships. It's essential to approach this topic with an open mind and respect for different cultural practices and perspectives. Ultimately, the happiness and success of a marriage depend on the individuals involved and their ability to communicate, understand, and support each other.

    FATHALLAH Maram 104

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  17. First, to really make sure that we understand the topic we have to know what "arranged marriage" really means. Arranged mariages started a long time ago about 3000 years before today, in the Near East. In the past it was a contract when wich consist in alliance of two family to support each other financially so it was nothing to do with love and the parents were the only one who can decide about it. Later when society changed and become more modern, people started thinking about love and mariage differently, today marriage is seen more as a contract between lovers and only the people who get married can decide about it. M So are arranged marriages a good or bad thing ?

    Arranged marriages can be helpful in some cases. They can be good for poor families, helping them make important alliances wich can help them financially so they can make some benefits. They can also be useful for people who are worried about finding a partner. They can also help people who want to start a family but don't have time to find a partner, also it beneficial for families to keep their status. These marriages can also bring two families or cultures together. Some arranged marriages turn out well, like in a tv show or movie where people initially forced into marriage end up falling in love over time. We can use as exemple an bollywood movie wich is named "Rab ne bana di jodi" realised by Aditya Chopra in 2008. This movie talks about two people wich are married by force, the man loves his wife and hides his feelings but she doesn't love him back so he joins a dance competition (where his wife was participating) by hiding his appearance to get closer to his wife. The end of the film is a happy ending and the characters are together. So, forced marriage can also create emotional and warm relationship.

    But there are problems about that especially in poor countries. Girls can be forced to marriage even before they become adults which is not good because they risks to misses their childhood. Like today one in five girls is forced into marriage in Africa. This can cause lots of damage like : to leave school, facing violence or being abused, be raped and abused. Arranged marriages can also lead to no romance. There's a little similar story from history with King Louis XVI and Marie Antoinette, the King and Queen of France in the XVIII century. They didn't get along, and Marie Antoinette cheated on her husband and also she spent all her husband's money.

    In the end, marriage has changed a lot over time. It used to be about money and security but now it's more about love. In today's world, you don't have to get married to be successful. So, while some arranged marriages can lead to a good futur but they can also lead to unhappy relationships for others. Arranged marriages in the 21st century often don't make sense anymore. As we live in a time where we still have a choice then it is better to use it instead of continuing to be stuck to old traditions about which we no longer understand anything.

    BEKAYEVA Mata 105

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  18. Arranged marriages involve families playing a crucial role in choosing a spouse, often based on criteria like religion or social class. Personally, I think that people have the right to choose their partners, but arranged marriages can sometimes lead to love and the creation of a family.

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  19. Arranged marriage is a union between two individuals who are selected by their families or guardians instead of the bride and groom. “Marriage is not a sales deal and you don't have to close it as fast as you can.” , Swati Kumar, The Great Indian Dilemma. Do you think that arranged marriages always build unhappy couples? Do you think they lead to a wrong vision of love?


    On the one hand, arranged marriages can be quite horrible because people who had an arranged marriage are often victim of domestic violence or sexual abuse. Indeed, if you are married to someone against your will, you are most likely to refuse sexual relation with them and the other one might force you or take advantage. Moreover, not choosing your partner is taking away one of your right and your chance to find passion or a real connection with someone you may actually care about.

    On the other hand, arranged marriages could have its benefits such as more dedication to the relationship due to the fact that there is a lack of emotion so the couple is willing to work on their issues of their marriage. And since it is your loved ones that choose your partner you could grow affection for them as they are picked especially for you. Besides, it can bring you financial security because your parents usually choose someone able to provide for you.

    In conclusion, being in an arranged marriage can be either dangerous or can make your life easier but in my opinion, love is not something people pick for you, it is your choice to spend your life with someone and it should only be up to you to decide who is worthy to be by your side for your whole life. Finally, I believe everyone has to live alone for a while to find themselves and to make mistakes before being engaged to someone.

    Emma Bolard 102

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  20. many countries practice arranged marriages. especially in africa like cameroun but also in india ...
    this practice is generally use by persone who believe in religion like musulman or the Hindus

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  21. I think that a marriage of convenience is not so bad, since most likely a family created in this way will be economically stable. The one who proposes such a marriage and insists on it most likely has calculated everything in advance. But if there is no mutual understanding and respect between the wife and husband, then most likely the family will be unhappy and possibly fall apart.

    Seied Ali

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  22. Arranged marriages are such a complex topic to talk about.In my opinion,they can be great only if the persons concerned are agree with it.To make a marriage last,love is not enough you also need understanding and communication.In many cases, arranged marriages have lasted way much longer than love marriages.

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  23. I think arranged mariage can be seen in different version ways. Indeed, first of all, I think, everyone should have the right to marry whoever they want. Some couples, over time, manage to love each other as I read in stories. But in other couples, it can be more complicated because the partner is not chosen. So I concluded to the fact than we must choose our partner.
    Emilie F 105

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  24. Arranged marriages are when families pick who marries. But families are not always wrong with ther choices. Indeed, some think arranged marriages always lead to sadness, but that's not true. It depends on many things like understanding and respect. Arranged marriages show love grows slowly, not instantly. But, if people are forced, they might not be happy. Arranged marriages don't always teach the wrong love. Some see them as practical. Arranged marriages can work if there's agreement and kindness. They're different for everyone. They can be good if people are happy together.

    Mohamed Ben abdeljelil 102

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  25. I think arranged marriages can work in some cases, if the spouses consent to the marriage of course, there's always a risk that it won't work as the spouses may not know each other. There's a big difference between arranged marriages and forced marriages, which most of the time result in a loveless marriage that won't last.

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  26. For me arranged marriages are really bad for the constructions of a person, whether psychological or otherwis.I know that sometimes it is part of the culture in families but that does not justify “forcing” the marrieds (wife or husband)

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    1. Correction : forcing someone to get married

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  27. For me, arranged marriages are not always synonymous with happy marriages because marriage is the union between two people who feel love for each other. However, when the marriage is arranged, the bride and groom often don't have time to get to know each other and have no say in the matter. In this case, for me, the arranged marriage is more likely to build an unhappy couple than a happy couple because if they have not taken the time to know and love each other, moreover the two characters of each person may not be compatible and the bride and groom end up unhappy or divorced. In addition, when it is a marriage arranged by the families and they force two people to get married, once married, neither of them will want to put in any effort or spend time together for the simple reason that it is not a personal choice. But on the contrary, families want to arrange a marriage but leave the final decision to the groom to say yes or no, so in this case, in my opinion, if both are in agreement, then they will make every effort to make it work and make the other person happy.

    This can give way to a mistaken view of love because the two people don't unite out of love.

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  28. In my opinion, arranged marriage should not exist. Everyone must choose the person with who they will spend their life. We must not impose. The two people may not match.

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